Really?

This pic (on the bottom, mobile doesn't let me pick where the image is :/ ) was on my fb feed today. I completely disagree. People always wonder why society is the way it is. It's because of stupid crap like this being circulated & worse, ACCEPTED as truth.

Do people really think they shouldn't ever be required to explain themselves? Because that, to me, is single-minded & selfish thinking. If I do something you consider very out of my character (we're going with something negative), wouldn't you like an explanation as to why I did it? Or would you rather go ahead & condemn or punish? What about you? Maybe you're extremely stressed, over-worked & haven't had enough sleep for weeks. This might make you snap & be ugly to me with little provocation. Wouldn't you WANT me to ask why? What's wrong? Listen to you explain your circumstances so I can understand? Or should I just be angry & not talk to you?

It kills me that people care SO LITTLE about other people, special circumstances & experiences, about their feelings & think they should never have to ever explain their actions or words.

I am so tired of the selfishness in our world. The definition of real love is caring more about another persons happiness than your own. Even if it makes you uncomfortable. If its not dangerous, illegal or immoral...then why not go along with it? Even if it's JUST to make them happy.

Surprisingly, when I was watching an episode of "Ice Loves Coco", Ice-T hit the nail right on the head. Coco wanted to take their dog to find a gf so he could get married. Ice thought it was stupid, didn't understand it at all & disagreed with doing it. But not only did he allow it, he PARTICIPATED, without complaint, because it made Coco happy. When he explained it he said, "hey, if it makes her happy & causes no harm to our marriage, why wouldn't I?"

Anybody else surprised? This is the man who got in trouble for his song (album?) called 'F*** the Police'. This used-to-be gangsta rapper got it right without even trying. He didn't need to make her bend to his will. THAT'S LOVE.

Why is the divorce rate so high? Not only because we choose to leave God out of it, but because many times we forget there's another person too!! We are so wrapped up with 'I'. "I feel..., I want..., I need..., I am comfortable with..., I don't want..., I say..., what about me?" mentality.

Well what about your spouse, your kids, your extended family & your friends? What about putting them BEFORE you? If EVERYBODY did that then everybody would feel loved, wanted, needed, important, valued, respected & happy. Because while you're putting your wife's needs ahead of your own, she's doing the same & nobody's needs aren't being met.

So everybody....stop loving yourself so much that there's no room to love anybody else. Challenge yourself to put their needs first for 2 weeks without complaint or telling them you are. If they love you then I GUARANTEE they'll start doing the same & you'll be happier. If they don't then maybe, just maybe...they're not the one.

To My Daughter

To my Elize love-


You mean the world to me.  It's killing me to see you having such a rough time this year.  I know you're gonna emerge from this stronger & better than ever though.  I have had the privilege of raising you for 12 years & I know the beautiful heart & soul you truly have.  Right now it's covered with hurt, anger, confusion & uncertainty about who you are.  But I know it's there still. 


You have always been my "golden child".  I know that's not politically correct to say, but you have been.  I have never seen a child SO loved by peers, adults, authority figures, younger kids & even pets SO much.  But that was you.  I couldn't take you anywhere without hearing ppl say they wanted to keep you & how wonderful you are & how respectful you were for your age.  Man, you made this mama burst with pride every day!! 


You are so beautiful to me & if I have ever made you feel any less than what I think of you, I'm sorry.  Because you are amazing to me.  There is nobody as close to my heart as you are.  I had you so young that I feel like we almost grew up together!  You've always been my road dog, my mini-me, my sidekick, my everything.  For years it was me & you against the world.  So I know it's hard to adjust to now having a pretty big family.  Going from 1 sibling looking up to you, to 3 of them.  That's a lot of pressure.  I understand that.  I also think you're up for that challenge & that you're gonna do great at it.


This rough patch with us will smooth out.  Because I'm willing to do whatever I need to do, to get things right.  To get you happy again.  To get you to love yourself again & realize your self worth.  I love you with all my heart & we WILL get through this.  I won't just let you slip away because I'm busy with the rest of life.  I promise you that.  You are a priority to me.  You always have been & always will be.  I may not always use the best approach or know the right words, but it isn't because I don't love you or I don't want to try.  It's just because I'm human.


I love you babygirl.  I hope that you get what you need while you visit your dad & when you come back, we can start refreshed & at a new place.  Your family supports you, even in times of bad behavior. I promise this.  Family first ya know?  We may have a big one, but that's just more love.  


It's hard being a teenager.  It's hard having a blended family.  It's hard having to scoot over to make room for Carmichael with me.  I get it.  & I'm gonna help make it easier for you.


I love you.


Love, Mom